If Not Now… Then When??

fear-picWhen are you going to decide once and for all that you have had enough, and move on to living the life you long to live?

Are you sick and tired of living in fear; of making decisions based on what you’re worried might or might not happen as a result?

I have been speaking with a friend just recently who is going through some really tough times. He asked me when did you start to change and love who you are and how did you do this? I explained that after writing my book, things really started to change. The releasing of past hurts and pain. However it was well before this that my life started taking a different direction. After my work place accident I decided that I needed to look at me, the real person in the mirror, not the person who everyone else expected me to be…or my thoughts that they wanted me to be a certain way. To conform to their thoughts, actions and words. To fit in with society and not make waves. So much of what I’ve done or avoided in my life has been driven by fear.

The one thing I realised was that so many of my choices were based from fear… Thinking before I spoke in case I hurt someones feelings, taking on board everyone else’s problems, hiding behind the mask, the mask that had everyone believe my life was rosy. Little did I know that once I started to remove the mask… little by little, as I believe that mask does not just get taken off in one foul swoop. Too much at risk to do that… but taking a little off at a time enables us to change in a way with which we can cope.

Things don’t change overnight… what was fed to us (the belief systems) and what we have taken on to think is correct and right, can all begin to change. We need to first get out of our heads… the bullshit chatter which has us not doing things in our lives, not stepping out of the box, not making the decisions to take a chance, all comes from fear. If we can be honest with ourselves here most of our programming comes from fear. There are all sorts of fears that will kill your passions off over time. Here are a few suggestions to help you cope:

Take time out – It feels impossible to think clearly when your head is full of anxiety and fear.

Don’t expect perfectionRunning yourself down because you feel others expect so much more from you can lead to fear… be who you are and love who you uniquely are. What others think of you is none of your business.

Talk about it – Sharing fears takes away a lot of their scariness.

So when is the time ever going to be right? When are we going to stand tall and say I love myself more, and those I am meant to have in my life will be there and love me for whom I am, the way I talk, walk and act. When will we move forward toward that passion, that purpose that lays asleep within us? We alone are the only ones that can make those choices. So what are you waiting for, let the fear go… live your life of passion and purpose. Life is short.

Life is the sum of all your choices.” – Albert Camus

Love and Blessings

Narelle x