Stop Asking for Directions to Places They’ve Never Been!
There comes a moment in every journey when you stop walking in circles and start forging your own path. That moment often begins in silence, not the kind that isolates, but the kind that liberates. It’s the silence that follows when you finally stop asking others how to live your life.
“This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they've never been.”
This quote is a quiet act of rebellion against external validation. It speaks to the courage required to trust your inner compass, especially when it leads you somewhere unfamiliar or even misunderstood.
Too often, we look to people, parents, partners, peers, who’ve never walked the path we dream of, and ask them how to get there. We expect them to map out our next steps, unaware that their good intentions can sometimes keep us bound to roads they've walked, not the ones we’re meant to blaze.
So, how do we move forward?
1. Listen inward.
Start with your own voice. The whispers of intuition, your persistent curiosities, your quiet wants, they all matter. What feels expansive? What makes you come alive? That’s your compass.
2. Accept discomfort.
Growth doesn't come pre-packaged with comfort. When you stop seeking approval, you may feel unsteady. That’s okay. Moving forward sometimes feels like falling before it feels like flying.
3. Take imperfect action.
Waiting until you’re “ready” is often a disguised form of fear. Take a step, make a mistake, learn from it. The only people who truly arrive are the ones who risk starting.
4. Redefine success.
Someone else's definition may involve security, fame, or predictability. Yours might involve creativity, stillness, or adventure. Choose what aligns with your values, not theirs.
5. Find kindred spirits, not guides.
Surround yourself with people who walk beside you, not ahead of you with a script. Shared energy and mutual support matter more than borrowed maps.
Moving forward isn’t about getting it right, it’s about getting it yours. When you finally realize that no one else has been where you're going, you'll stop looking for approval and start looking for alignment. That’s when the real journey begins.
Have a great day,
Narelle x
